Making Romance Difficult

Meredith Bond

The plotting of my next book–which now officially has a title (woohoo!): My Gentleman Thief–is inching along. Honestly, I’ve got this picture of a snail staring at me from my other monitor and I can relate to it so well.

I’ve figured out a good deal of the heroine’s journey, and that of the hero. Now I’m working on how the twain shall meet (sorry).

It certainly can’t be all butterflies and giggles, that’s for sure!

It would be fun if they hated each other at first and then slowly grew to love each other — because frankly, the love at first site trope is sort of getting on my nerves. Yes, the alpha male growl of “Mine!” when the hero first sees the heroine is fun and gives me goosebumps in the right setting, but I want this story to be different.

With the characters of Thalia and Yiannis (my heroine and hero), they are bound to find each other attractive and interesting at first (they just have too much in common not to do so), but then it all has to go to pot.

My hero becomes a social butterfly, my heroine can’t stand being social.

My heroine is devoting herself academics and study, my hero thinks that’s fine in small doses, but doesn’t want to spend all his time reading and debating.

The heroine is an adventurer at heart, my hero enjoys quiet time.

He can sit for hours focusing on a drawing, she can’t sit still for that long without having to get up and go riding.

Do you see what I’m doing? These are all the reason why the hero and heroine can’t be together, don’t like each other–why their relationship just won’t work… until it does. Until they realize that they balance each other. That the other sees them for who they truly are. That they respect each other. And most of all, that they can’t live without the other no matter how difficult life is going to be — if they face it together, they can deal with anything.

So, first I’m going to make a list of all the things that draw these two people together, and then a list of all the things that tear them apart. I need a reason why they can’t be together and a reason why they can’t be apart. And most importantly, they each have to give up something near and dear to their heart in order to be with the other.

Now I’ve got to figure all that out! … inching along.


Meredith Bond is an award-winning author of a series of traditionally published Regency romances and indie-published paranormal romances. Known for her characters “who slip readily into one’s heart,” Meredith’s heart belongs to her husband and two children. Meredith’s second favorite pastime is teaching others to write.

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